8 Things That Can Make You Come Across Weird

They say there’s a thin line between weird and cool. While this may be true for creative work and off the wall ideas, it doesn’t hold for social settings. You’re either socially cool or you’re socially awkward. We all have our reasons for wanting to improve social skills and regardless of what they are, gaining better competency in this area serves many aspects of our lives.

If you feel awkward in social settings or have been informed of how you come across, what could be things about you that are weirding these people out?

1. Your clothes

Do you ever feel out of place because of what you’re wearing (if you do, then chances are your clothes are making people feel awkward)? Do you wear the same types of outfit everywhere you go? Who can you think of that wears the same clothes you do? How does that person come across to you?

2. Grooming

Do you keep your basic grooming in check? Hairs trimmed? Nails cleaned? Do you smell? How’s you breath? Do you need a mint?

3. Nervous habits

Do you laugh at your own jokes? Do you stutter? Do you get angry or do weird things when you’re anxious? Do you keep looking for affirmation from others (like saying “Am I right?” all the time)?

4. Lying

Do you make up stories just to have stuff to talk about? Do you make little claims that you know aren’t true? Do you pretend to have a cool life, a hot girlfriend and millions in the bank?

5. Refusing to talk about your life

Do you change the subject when conversations get a bit personal? Do you keep quiet about your personal life? Are you ashamed of what goes on in your life? Can’t you talk about yourself in an honest way?

6. Sick jokes

While green and sick jokes can be funny, most times they’re just awkward. Ever cracked one of these babies and all you seemed to get are complimentary laughs? Do all your jokes involve fart, excrements, bodily fluids and innuendo?

7. Energy level

Are you listless? Do you trudge through your day? Are you bored? Do you act that same way even around people trying to enjoy themselves?

8. Being in your head

Are you too much in your head? Are you too sensitive to what other people say? Do you take everything personally? Are you stuck from thinking through things too much?

The above is a checklist for fixable things that may be the reason if you’re coming across in a negative way. While some are easier to fix than others, they’re all things you can work through once you identify them in yourself.
I’ve written on some of them in the blog and others have as well. I’ll elaborate on each one during the next two weeks, discussing stuff that works for me and stuff that I currently use for the issues I’m still working on myself.